5 months I’ve been single before my handsome man came to sweep me off my feet. I never realised how powerful these dating apps were until I found Ben. Just imagine accidentally swiping left on the man you were meant to spend your life with, I certainly don’t like thinking about it. But it’s true; we’re all leaving our love lives in the fate of an application, a possible match.
And then comes the first date, my god I was a nervous, sweaty mess before I met Ben, but fortunately my 5-month-old son kind of broke the ice since he was being a whinge bag the entire day due to him teething.
Yes, being a single parent is tough when it comes to dating, babysitters aren’t easy to find, and I hate asking my mum (and at that time, their dad could only take Logan for the night). But despite having a 3rd party, the first meeting was really nice and even managed to steal a few kisses. I remember just feeling happy, and I couldn’t stop smiling the entire day, I reckon that’s how you know if someone is meant for you or not, they kiss you just how you like, and it just feels natural and if you’re in sync.
From that first meeting, things just went from great to epic, we have so much in common, he makes me laugh without having to say or do anything and he gives great cuddles which is a bonus, oh and has an amazing beard!
Whenever I gaze into his sexy brown eyes, I go to this place I’ve never been before, where time just stands still and I often forget that there are people around us, now you’re probably thinking, ‘Maria, you must have been there before, you’ve had boyfriends before him’, Yes you’re right, obviously I’ve had boyfriends and a fiancé previously, but there is honestly something different with Ben, I can’t put my finger on it, but whatever it is, it’s like a drug that I don’t ever want to stop taking.
Being completely honest, I wasn’t sure if Ben was my type when I first started talking to him, but he grew on me and I’m so glad that I gave him that chance and getting to know him and talking to him pretty much every day via messaging and video calls, I can say that yes ben is everything good that I want in a partner and I couldn’t be happier right now!
There have been other guys trying to win my attention, but for some reason, nothing they were saying was turning my head, and then I realised, Ben was that reason, he’s all I could think about and still do.
Now you’re thinking about popping those 3 words, why is it that those 3 small words are so hard to say, personally I think it’s because Love is a powerful feeling and to admit that to the guy/woman you’ve been dating, well it can either make or break a relationship especially if either is a commitment-phobe. But I was so relieved when Ben popped out with it first, obviously, the feeling was mutual as I was dying to say it to him. But he did on the 17th June 2018, which was also the day he asked me to be his girlfriend, and I had no hesitations, it was the easiest yes I’ve ever had to say.
I’ll admit it took me a bit of time to come to terms with the fact that I actually had a boyfriend now and what that meant, but I’m so happy and excited by what our future could hold.
Something that has really surprised me is the fact I’d date a younger guy, as I’d always set my limit at 24, but Ben is 22 (nearly 23) and I just had all these preconceptions of younger guys being immature but he has certainly changed my view that not all younger dudes are childish idiots! Yeah, it’s fine to have a playful nature sometimes, as I can be pretty silly when the moment is right especially around my boys.
To be continued…
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